Conflict and Difficulties

“The only way out is ————> through.”

It's a hard thought to grasp sometimes, especially in a moment of conflict, anxiety or difficulty. It's easier to start recognising it in the resolution phase of a difficulty or in a moment of peace.

When I manage to see life or a moment this way, I am always shocked at how every hurdle, every conflict, can be seen as an adventure that will lead to more understanding, more self-awareness, more growth. That being said, it doesn't mean it will be easy.

This concept became apparent and sunk in for me years ago when I came across a book with a truly awful and dull title but fantastic content called "How to make your relationship work" by Anne Geraghty. I highly recommend reading this book! It was a game-changer for me. I actually read it when I was single, perhaps it even works better this way, without the need to try fix something.

The central concept for me was that conflict is love's way of creating the opportunity for even deeper connection, greater compassion and boundless learning. More generally and outside of relationships, conflict, difficulty and pain when viewed in the right way can be seen as great signs of where we have the most to grow and learn. Whether you choose to stay and face it or move away from the situation will of course depend on what feels healthy for you in that specific situation.